My Best Friend Spent Her Thirtieth Alone With Me—Finishing Our College “Someday” List

her would require remaining interested in who she was becoming, even when familiarity made me think I already knew the answer.

Later, she asked about my father.

“Saturday as usual,” I said. “We might tackle the garage again.”

“Do you want company?”

I began to say she did not need to spend a weekend sorting somebody else’s belongings. Then I stopped. It was the same old impulse: declining help before another person could decide whether to offer it freely.

“I’d like that,” I said.

“Then ask him.”

“I will.”

She